Compensation

Today I came to a conclusion that started with a conversation with a colleague about how job hunting for me was much like when I was first looking for a girlfriend. Fortunately this is not a daily source of anxiety for me any more now that my long searched-for second half sleeps by my side every night making my days unalterably joyful if she would just bless me with a smile upon waking up (which, unfortunately, is often too much to hope for on a normal weekday...), but job searching at this point of my life is still something pretty new to me, and the ideal job still refuses to sleep with me every night. So where is the comparison between my actual job hunt, and my previous girl hunt in fact relevant?
Well here are the main differences:
-I don't in fact sleep with my job (quite unlike my girlfriend in fact, who sometimes has a lot of trouble taking hers out of her mind)
-I don't expect my girlfriend to pay me a monthly fee for loving her
The rest is mainly the same:
-I know what I have to offer is sizable
-I know that I present it well
-I sound confident
-I know what I want and I know I sound like the person they/she needs

Ok, well, in the least I like to feel like all this is true... but in the least the similarities are striking, overall I am confident, but scared of one thing above all, the fact that the opposing party might fail to appreciate that, and reject me.
Is it not a stupid thing that one might break one's own inexorable progression in life by fearing something one doesn't even believe in... And to what worst avail?
A chance wasted you might say, but that would have been just as wasted had no action been undertaken. So the only possible negative outcome, is the theoretical blow of rejection, and how much that might affect that fragile confidence that took so long to build. Being a very positive person though, I have generally found excuses for all my failures, or decided to mostly set them aside as inevitable lessons that needed to be learned...but somehow, however positive I can rise from a fall, I fear the next fall might definitely affect my positivism.
This is something I consider a weakness and would like to change, and I think time will be my ally, but it lead me to think about these defaults that we not only have, but are extremely sensitive about. Generally I would say that any aspect of our person that makes us sensitive, is an aspect that we wish to change and certainly not accept as a part of what defines us, it makes it all the more sensitive that we probably work everyday on at least trying to hide it. So what does one do with these issues? Well there is always the option of believing you can hide it all your life and end up a very susceptible and probably irate person.
There is otherwise two other solutions one can try:
-Grow out of it. Find the missing strength or experience needed to change through small steps and probably lots of help from loved ones, and push this aspect deep into the memories of our former selves.
-I also believe one can learn to accept it and integrate it as a defining aspect of one's personality. But there is a condition to that, and that is compensation. One can generally not just say "I am like this, take it or leave it", if all were to do that, everyone's everyday life would be but a succession of meaningless battle for one's right at peace. The key is to compensate with the adequate quality, and develop it as strongly as one decides to dwell in the default.
For example if one decides that his extremely choleric approach to conflict handling is too deeply embedded in him to change, then let him compensate by developing an extreme ease of repenting and the ability to bow down in excuses. No one will in general hold it against someone for doing something wrong, if he subsequently and by himself sets things straight afterwards.
In my case, I will not surrender to my fears, and I know experience will show me how ridiculous they are.